Never Know What Life's Gonna Throw A You

So by now most people know that my mom has cancer. Well, this I've known for a while now. My mom and I are good friends and so she tells me before she tells important things before most people and sometimes certain people take offense to that. So I should start with the story, otherwise you'll end up lost and confused and you'll be saying, "What are you talking about?"
OK so my mother told me about the cancer and the surgery over a month ago and she asked me not to tell anyone here (the family) because she wanted to herself and she wanted to do it all at once. Which is understandable because if it were me, I wouldn't want to have to repeat it a half a million times. So she was planning on making a trip down here to see everybody and tell them at the family barbeque. However she couldn't make it and so she asked me to get all four of my brothers and their wives together for 15 minutes, that's all she was asking for, so she could tell them something very important. And she said I couldn't tell them what it was about because she wanted to. So I called all of my brothers and all of them agreed on a day and time and I thought that was good. Well one of them didn't like that I was keeping information from him and he tried several ways to get it out of me but he couldn't and so he gave up; or so I thought. He started asking around from everybody in the family. Asking if they knew what was going on and if they knew they had to tell him. well this started getting everybody worried asking mom what's up and the usual questions when you're curious. Well no one knew anything and for some reason someone told him that mom was dying. Well on Friday as soon as I get back to the Chinese Kitchen and I'm serving customers (by myself with no help during the lunch rush I might add) he comes storming up to the counter and starts yelling at me saying its all my fault that mom was dying and that she was sick. If I had told him she wouldn't be dying, and going on and on. Basically saying it was all my fault. Well I didn't like it but I with as much dignity as I could muster at the moment I told him he needed to leave because I was working. He wouldn't leave and he had to be escorted out of the store. So I finished up the lunch rush and I was called upstairs. I almost lost my job because of him! You know I don't go to his place of work and yell and scream and harass him so what gives him the right to do that to me? I understand he was angry and upset. But his source of information is usually wrong and he should've checked that story with mom or even me! I would've cleared up that she isn't dying. That would've calmed him but he doesn't like to listen to reason very well.
Obviously I had to call mom and tell her what was going on. I was near to tears at that moment. When she found out she got so stressed and upset she started crying and told me to cancel the get together with my brothers. She did what she didn't want to do. She had to call and tell everyone indivually because by this time Patrick (my idiot brother) had started caliing people and telling everyone the wrong information. It takes a lot to get my mom to cry and so you know how much its hurting her when she cries.
I thought that wuold be the end of it but no. When everyone found out that I already knew and didn't tell them they accused me of lying to them and they said it was all my fault she was sick. Except my three other brothers and their wives. They understood that it wasn't my news to give but everybody else victomized and blamed me for evrything that was wrong with my mother. And no matter what I told them or my mother told them they wouldn't listen. So needless to say I didn't bother to even try and go to the family's Labor Day barbeque. I purposly traded shifts with people so I would have a valid excuse not to be there.
So, you may ask why I bring this up. Well, I'll tell you why. So I can say this and hopefully iot will get across to, not just my family, but to other families who are dealing with this right now.
Here's what I have to say to those who would blame for their mother's cancer or even just her general health:
Get over it! If you wanted to be told how your mother's doing, call her! Don't wait for her to call you! You have her phone number and a working phone so get off your lazy backside and call her! Its as simple as that! And, this is just my personal view on the matter, if you aren't willing to give your mom 15 minutes of your busy life then what right do you have to demand to know whats wrong with her when you haven;t spoken to her months?!?!?! Also, just becasue you're angry that you can't do anything to help her don't take it out on someone who was doing what their mother wanted them to do. Its unfair and puts not only me in an awkward position it makes your mom feel terrible. That is not what she needs at the moment. What she needs is your support and by putting your anger into breaking down someone else you're hurting everybody else.
That's just something to think about. I needed to get that out there because I can't tell my brother this because he's been avoiding me after his blow up and so I need to get that out becasue I am so stressed out I'm not sleeping anymore, I'm not eating, I can't focus and I'm always on the verge of tears. I can't serve a customer anymore without wanting to bawl my eyes out and I'm always looking out making sure that Patrick isn't going to come in and make another scene. As much as I hate my job I need it.
I'm sorry I unloaded this on you but I didn't know what else to do. The church here still treats me like garbage and the Bishop didn't know that I even exsisted until a few months ago and I had been there over a year. I can't talk to any family here except some for my brothers but we all have busy schedules and barely have time to see each other. So all I can do is vent on here and hope that maybe it will help me feel better. And it does. Not always but its working just a little bit at the moment.
So I hope your lives are going better than mine is at the moment and if there's one thing that I want you to take from this is to talk to your family often and see how they are because you never know what life is going to throw at you.
Catch Ya'll Later